UPDATED with a challenge ;) Culture: make your own – no not yogurt – and quit letting 2 people define culture rot

Can’t speak for anyone else but I think this needs to be said:

What matters to you, your kids, your life, your happiness, your satisfaction happens right there within your family. Turn off the t.v. if it offends you (duh?) If you object to the lousy role models you see on t.v. then FIND OTHER ROLE MODELS. It’s not difficult. If you can’t find a grandparent, teacher, coach, volunteer, or other excellent role model in your day to day life, there are MILLIONS of them in the US alone.

AT COLLEGES & UNIVERSITIES

There are 4,495 Title IV eligible degree granting institutions of higher education in the US and 14.6 MILLION full time college students. Fourteen point six million people pursuing higher education and you’re focused on a music awards show. YOU ARE AN IDIOT. Regardless of your “margin of error” 2 people vs 14.6 MILLION isn’t statistically significant.

AT LIBRARIES

Ok, degree granting institutions are too intimidating for you or too far away? There are one hundred nineteen THOUSAND nine hundred eighty-seven (yes, 119,987) LIBRARIES in the united states.

AT MUSEUMS

You say you don’t want to read a book, look at a magazine, thumb through the paper, borrow a movie, listen to an audio book to absorb the single most wonderful miracle in the entirety of humanity: human & the pursuit of knowledge? Fine. Go to a museum & absorb it there.

There are 17,500 museums in the United States.

The US is composed of about 3.794 million square miles.

And the average licensed driver in the US drives 13,476 miles per year.

So every year with your car, you’re covering enough distance to encompass 15,858 full time college students, 15 degree-granting institutions, 426 libraries and 62 museums. And you’re focused on 2 idiots on an awards show as representing our “culture rot”?

I’m willing to bet the people who are sharing the 2 idiots – whether positive or negative – on Facebook haven’t spent as much time at museums, libraries, or universities COMBINED in the past year as they’ve spent complaining about those 2 idiots.

It’s marketing … and not only is it working … it’s making you its slave. Who’s the idiot? You or them?

P.S. if you can find 5 people who posted a photo of or the names of those 2 examples of “culture rot” in the past 4 days AND have also been to a Library, Museum AND University (for the pursuit of new knowledge, not for alcohol, drugs, standardized tests, or athletic events) in the past year – I will read a piece of Victorian Era literature or one of its American contemporaries (which I loathe as much as the whigners loathe the 2 examples of culture rot). So bring it on – prove to me you’re not a bunch of uncultured whigners and I’ll be lady enough to read Brontë or Austen or Tennyson. One piece of Victorian literature per five “found” exhortants of culture rot who’ve been to a museum, library AND University in the pursuit of knowledge in the past year (yes, online universities count)

Things You Need to be Told – August 2013 Edition

The web is rife with articles about things teachers wish parents knew and over 240 people echoed a kvetch about other people having the audacity to interfere with bedtime and naptime when Lisa-Jo Baker posted about it the other night.

Back in 2001, this gem Things You Need to be Told was a gift to the literary and etiquette world – I think the Etiquette Grrls had the right idea … so here’s mine 😉

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7 Things I Wish Teachers Knew

1) We’re not idiots – the vast majority of the parents whose children you’re teaching have the same quantity & quality of education that teachers do; please stop addressing us as though we’re technologically illiterate monkeys with a kindergarten education. The parents you’re trying to reach are the exception, not the rule. (and no, those “Exception” parents aren’t reading WSJ.com or its print counterpart … let’s be serious here, you’re condescending to an entire generation of parents in paper that we’re reading for business news not parenting advice LOL)

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1a) We’re not technologically illiterate – at least not all of us – and some of us are more technologically savvy than you are; so save your sermon on social media for your grandma. (meaning: The tech savvy parents saw your diatribe not only in the daily WSJ delivered to their inbox, but on Twitter and FB as well …)

2) When you tell us “we love kids” we don’t believe you – at least not wholesale. We know you love the idea of fostering a love of learning in healthy hale kids who come to school from solid homelives with a healthy nutritious breakfast ready and eager to learn. We know that your hearts get broken by the kids whose parents do not provide that. The parents whose education is on par with yours know at least 2 if not 6 or 10 former classmates who became teachers for reasons other than loving children.

2a) When you tell us you didn’t go into the profession for the money or the glory, we do believe you. We didn’t become parents for fortune & glory either 😉  teaching, as anything else, is a calling. But we also know plenty of people who teach because they need the same work schedule as their kids (because childcare is expensive) or people who went into teaching to help put their spouse through grad school or to pay off student loans from an undergrad major that didn’t manifest into a career.

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3) The things that we (as parents) teach our children are important, too – and a lot of those things aren’t things that you can teach our children nor should you. So when you overstep that line and try to impart morality in the classroom or try to brain wash our kids into following your lifestyle choice, we react. You raise your own children & let us raise ours; please.

4) We choose our battles and we do expect our children to learn from their mistakes, so stand by the consequences you attached to poor decision making at the beginning of the year. It’s part of the team that we’re all on.

5) If you work for an administrator who values children by the $$ attached to them from programs, no amount of classroom excellence will overcome that.

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6) If you believe that a child’s only need for math in the future will be for money, you need to get out of teaching and go work in any other field. Pick rice for all I care, but stop perpetuating the soft bigotry of low expectations. It might be ok at your house, but it’s not ok at mine and I will get my child out of your sexist bassackwards classroom asap.

7) When a parent asks you a question, they expect a professional well-thought-out response – in complete sentences. Otherwise you’re proving that your pedagogy is the nonsense that it sounds like when you preach it.

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7 Things I Wish my Fellow Moms Knew

1) We’re not mowing the lawn at your kids’ naptime intentionally – we’re mowing the lawn because it needs to get done. If you want to change our schedule, feel free to pony up for a landscaping company to come do it for us.

2) Motherhood is not a competition. Nobody wins. Being alive is being alive. Whatever happens after that is up for religious & philosophical debate – presumably it has nothing to do with whether a parent SAH or WOH.

3) It’s not about you – the things that WOHM do or say are NOT about SAHM – we’re not out to “get” you or out to “undermine” you by not adopting traditional gender roles.

4) It’s not about us either – the things that we all do are what’s best for OUR family; if you’re doing whatever you’re doing as a political or gender role “stance” you should probably enroll in a philosophy course at the local community college & explore your cave a little better.

5) If you’re peddling guilt – particularly if you’re dragging the Bible into it  – you might need a new hobby. No, taking it to Pinterest doesn’t count.

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6) If you homeschool and your social media is regularly afflicted with spelling, grammar, or usage errors you’re passing that on to your children – both in how you’re homeschooling them because you clearly can’t correct your own work, nevermind theirs – and in so far as you’re teaching them that adults can be sloppy & lazy about their writing and it doesn’t matter.  it DOES matter. resumes with misspellings go to file 13. colleagues with poor communication skills are ignored.

So true

7) Your friends will be there for you regardless of how many times you’ve had to eat crow or how many times they’ve passed you the ketchup to make your own crow more palatable – but it’s ok to have an “out” – a safe word or some other “cue” for your friends to give you or you to give your friends to indicate “ok, enough about little Johnny’s green snot” or that you can give your friends to say “excuse me, you’re starting to sound like Super Nanny not my bff, and I need you to let me kvetch, not try to fix it for me”

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Menu Plan Monday – Inspired by Mama24Boys at Tales from The Nursery

If you haven’t visited the most adorable 4 brothers and their amazing (really, she’s amazing – raising 4 boys in a life of faith, family and healthy living) mom at http://talesfromthenursery.wordpress.com/author/mamatotwoboys/ please do. In addition to being an awesome mom, Mama24Boys has some awesome recipes, so visit her 🙂

And now, inspired by her post this morning – here’s the menu plan here this week (thankfully I don’t have to deal with t-ball and “in school” this summer means that I’m writing my capstone, thankfully not writing my capstone AND taking 2 other classes like I was in spring 2012!):

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Lunches during the work week will be salads or turkey wraps depending on which cycle of my journey I’m on … and of course yogurt … and lemon water … and green tea

Monday – Chicken Shawarma for a lunch & leftovers for supper (from Sunday’s crockpot roasted turkey breast & veggies)

Tuesday – Slow Cooker Green Chili (which I thought I had previously posted … but evidently haven’t … hmmm …)
Wednesday – last night of school – grilled steaks

Thursday – Asian BBQ Chicken & Broccoli Slaw (this recipe except with boneless skinless chicken breast not thighs)

Friday – stuffed bell peppers (lean ground turkey mixed w/ meatloaf flavored tomato sauce stuffed in red bell peppers and then cooked in the crockpot all day)

Saturday -probably my bastardized version of 17 day diet chili (sorry the one in the book isn’t my cup of tea; I need SPICY not tomato sauce & onion … homemade taco seasoning & El Pato get the job done)

That’s as far ahead as I’m planning. MadiKinz93theUnicorn is journeying on the 7th of June … so planning is as planning does …

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Humility

Humility is a lesson best learned when writing a letter of reference or recommendation for someone you admire greatly. This week I had the honor to do so, and it was a blessing to have been able to.

If you haven’t written someone a recommendation, I advocate doing so. If you don’t know someone well enough – or don’t admire someone enough – to write a heart-felt honest letter about their ability to make the world a better place, it might be time to adjust your focus. The world is full of wonderful WONDERFUL people who need reminding that they’re amazing.

We all have our flaws; and we all lose sight of our flaws when we are able to help others focus on their innate goodness and world-changing ability just by being who they are.

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The Count-Down is on … no really, it’s a motivational technique!

45 Days

Shorter than Advent … half-way between the length of Lent and the time from Easter to Pentecost …

 

Registered for the HFMA CHFP exam today … the District is sponsoring a program to encourage more members to attain certification … the deadline to sit for the exam is 4/30. Thankfully there were seats available in the 4/29 exam!

I’ve done the online learning modules, attended the webinar series … now I need to finish studying and prepare … I’ll know the day of the test that if whether or not I passed or flopped or wasted more money than I want to admit to for an exam errrrr um something 

 

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First Job After Graduation ….

My counter-points follow … (yes, originally written back in July, I didn’t post them here then)
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Your article today was great for the traditional student. For a non-traditional student who worked her way through college & grad school – and ultimately has 15 years of professional experience (and probably a family) by the time she has a masters degree and is applying for a PhD program – the “first job out of college” is also likely the job that got her through to graduation and there are some very challenging loyalty land-mines awaiting her.
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1. This job probably helped you with tuition assistance – if you start looking you know that you’ll have to pay back that tuition assistance – and the company knows that, so finishing your masters might not be worth nearly as much as it would be to another organization BUT that other organization is going to have to give you a signing bonus of about $15K to cover the tuition assistance AND the taxes on it (since tuition assistance programs are, if written & administered correctly, tax free benefits to employees unless they depart before it’s paid back).
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2. After investing so much time, energy, and money into a career and its accompanying education, if you decide you’re not going to spend the rest of your professional life doing what you’ve just finished educating yourself to do you’re in a Catch-22: starting over in a new field can be a costly proposition, but 15 years of experience might not be enough to become a consultant. Writing your resume will be a challenge.
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3. The classic Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office and Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman advice applies: if you’ve been with an organization long enough to get through grad school, chances are you’ve
(a) been pigeon-holed – which may limit your advancement and/or may have caused someone above you to get in the unprofessional, but real, habit of treating you like a kid because, despite being in your early 30’s, they think of you as a student
(b) been auditioning as a “professional” every day – which means that those mornings when you weren’t on your game because you were up all night writing a paper OR with a sick child OR with a far away family member in need of a shoulder, your boss (and all your colleagues) noticed that you weren’t on your game and – because it’s business, not personal – they don’t care WHY, they just care that you are.
(c) in a multi-generational office, exceeded the educational attainment of anyone who didn’t have to pay their dues in a lousy economy – which digs up the education + experience vs experience squared work-place conundrum
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4. If you used student loans to achieve your academic goals, you’re suddenly taking home a lot less money unless you got a $12K/year raise – but you’re still responsible for maintaining a professional appearance
5. If grad school created a significant change in your weight, you need to get the weight back off while maintaining a wardrobe that fits & is professional, without showing up at work looking like you just ran out of the gym every morning.
6. Colleagues will assume – erroneously – that now that you’re done with school, you have an over-abundance of free-time. This is false – that free-time is now going to be dedicated to the things you put off while in school – the gym, a tidy home, hobbies, getting more than 3 hours of sleep per night, etc.
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7. The new skills you attained while achieving a state-of-the-art education won’t be appreciated by those whose education ended the year Nixon & Ford served as POTUS. These people are (a) old enough to be your parents, (b) above you in the food chain, (c) not going to retire for another 5-12 years. This will be a challenge to your ongoing professionalism.
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8. If you look for something new after finishing grad school while working somewhere, you will face the awkward question “why are you leaving your current position”. It’s egregiously unprofessional to say “just because”. It’s fruitless to say “because I wanted to see what the market had to offer now that the economy has recovered”. If you were only at the position for long enough to finish your education, prospective employers are going to know that you used the benefits package as a spring-board to achieving a goal, and this creates some questions about your character. If, while working through school, you relocated – whether because of family, academic or economic reasons – the question is further complicated.
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9. The questions you get asked in interviews will make you realize that you’re the only person in the room who has been balancing school and a profession in the recent past – “Tell us a time when you exceeded all expectations” isn’t a question that’s begging for “well I worked full time while raising a family and maintaining a 3.85 GPA for the past X years to achieve my goals” … partly because you have no idea what the GPAs of the interviewers were, and partly because they want to know about your professionalism, not your sleep deprivation.
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10. If you managed to work full-time while being in school full-time and having a family, chances are you finished your academic work at least partly online – and you’re not in your early 20’s. There is still a pall cast upon non-traditional students and online programs by those who feel that college should be (or is) a 4 year residential season of your life between the ages of 18 and 22. You’ll need to find someone above you in the food chain at your employer who completed the same program, from the same university, to mentor you through the slalom of being a new-graduate with more than a decade of experience.
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What’s a Blog when you’re a student? A holding tank for all those brilliant thoughts we have for school but haven’t yet brought to fruition in our professional lives … case in point:

As achievers in a world of armchair critics, it can be challenging for us to bust out of our comfort zones and share the opportunity to extrapolate opportunities for success … but when we work together with others in a successful way, we ALL have greater success – especially when it comes to client satisfaction.

 

It took me 34 years of life & 15 years of professional experience to FINALLY understand how that’s actually true … and while there are still times when the uncompromising innovators such as Ayn Rand’s Howard Roark are needed more than the Peter Keating-esque conformists; it’s easier for me to see how the archetype of teamwork applies in multiple areas.

 

The clean house, sleeping child, savory smells coming from the kitchen, ginger lime fragrance from the candles on the mantle, the operating vehicles in the driveway, the solid roof over our heads … they’re not solely MY doing … I sure as hell can’t build a Jeep … and I definitely didn’t grow or roast the coffee that’s brewing; I bought & ground & measured it.

Teamwork is everywhere … and sometimes being a stubborn ass and building tools for teams is as essential a part of teamwork as being a good follower … we just have to know when it’s worth taking the “I’m an ass” chances 🙂

Lazy?

Apparently I need to purchase a new dictionary and thesaurus, because generally when people label me with pejorative terms, I at least understand where they’re coming from … I mean it’s not like I’m unaware of my personality flaws … some of them I even embrace, warmly, as parts of me that transcend personality …

But today was different … I’m a lot of things … and I’m lazy about a lot of things (dusting, exercise, learning the correct conjugations irregular verbs in any languages other than English, Spanish and French …) but today I was referred to as “lazy” in an academic sense. Interesting.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lazy

Perhaps I just need a bound copy of Urban Dictionary:

<i>over-achiever</i>
1: A person who is motivated by their ideals. An intra-competitive person often marked by abandoning that which hinders their ideals.

Discoveries …

The past week has been interesting. Adding a 34 page proposal on top of the usual mix of work/school/mom/etc definitely pushed the limits of my sanity & ability to coexist peaceably with others by 5pm Friday.

But along the way I discovered the following –

First, The Perks of Being a Wallflower has become one of my all-time favorite movies and I’m so glad that I rented that instead of watching that awards show that every other blog on the face of the internet has been talking about since Sunday. Also, if you’re a mom and you try not to let the laundry steal your sanity, you will end up wearing the same black & white striped cami / black sweater / black dress slacks combo 3x in a Friday to Friday span … and it will be clean every time you wear it … indicating that it might be time to lighten up on the laundry a little LOL

Second, I got eaten alive by some kind of really itchy bugs last Saturday at Ren Faire

Third – it’s possible to make a double batch of deliciousness during an hour-long sports practice … as evidenced at this site:

http://www.loveveggiesandyoga.com/ – where there were the most fabulous PB & J Blondies http://www.loveveggiesandyoga.com/2012/09/peanut-butter-and-jelly-blondies.html

Fourth – my reputation as The Anti-Marketing Maven has stopped preceding me in battle … someone had the audacity to tell me I should “go pro” in marketing because I successfully green-washed Pampers with sufficient research … I’m sorry, the only BS in my life is in a frame stashed on a shelf in the closet next to my desk … I won’t be making a career of it anytime soon; but thanks for the A on the project, I did work my tail off for it.

Fifth – that split infinitives are easier to recognize than to describe in a conversation … to boldly go … stupid Star Trek … everyone knows Star Wars is superior

Sixth …

And the 300+ page Salt River Allotments Vegetative Management preliminary environmental impact study (which you can download at this site http://a123.g.akamai.net/7/123/11558/abc123/forestservic.download.akamai.com/11558/www/nepa/79171_FSPLT2_376186.pdf  – public comments are welcome until early April, if you’re interested, speak up – email addresses etc below in the original blurbs I put together about this and other TNF news for an environmental communication project this week)

Seventh …

The music of Eliza Doolittle, Joss Stone, and Black Joe Lewis & the Honeybears.

Eighth …

And really? I’m trying not to get really tired of being sequestered to sneakers all the time – which is definitely a more comfortable accommodation than the 16 weeks I spent last year in that damn boot/walking cast thing – but really? I’m looking at pretty spring dresses & realizing that I’m stuck in black dress pants until I can start wearing “real” shoes again in early August. 5 more months.

Good thing I’m reading AJ Jacob’s The Year of Living Biblically because it reminds me that there are more significant pita than the sneakers 😉

Ninth … I’m tired of Lent already … specifically: I wanted Gyros for lunch on Friday … and the cheese crisp I had instead sent me to the Tums 2x between 12pm and 5pm. At least gyros would’ve been worth the heart burn …

Tenth … I’m not in the least bit ready for the HFMA CHFP exam that is haunting me … I’ve got til 4/30 to sit for the exam. YIKES.

Eleventh  – putting this first because I have NO idea if it’s really going to work, but I ordered the yarn and will try it this week …

http://www.onegoodthingbyjillee.com/2012/09/save-time-money-and-energy-make-your-own-wool-dryer-balls.html

Twelfth – watching movies with Kristin Stewart and Winona Ryder back to back is a BAD IDEA – bad acting is bad acting … (and I can’t decide, having seen it now, if the last Twilight movie was the worst of the movies or just doing the best they could with what was left of the story line … )

Thirteenth – I didn’t miss anything in the last season of AMC’s The Walking Dead … because I was asleep less than 10 minutes in to the 2nd episode …

 

What’s New In the National Forest?

Residents of our region enjoy the Tonto National Forest every day. Here’s what’s new:

Signal Peak’s Communication Permit up for Renewal in April

Signal Peak’s communication permit is up for renewal in April. Along with 26 other permits including those issued for communication sites on Humboldt Mountain, Carol Springs, Blackjack and Cooks Mesa, Signal Peak’s communication site permit is expired. The National Forest Service proposal is to reissue the permit for ongoing activity. If you’d like to learn more, visit: http://www.fs.fed.us/nepa/nepa_project_exp.php?project=41164 or contact Rebecca Hoffman at rchoffman@fs.fed.us.

Land-Swap to Provide Camp Consolidation for Kids

Currently, the USFS is working to swap some lands in the Tonto National Forest (and 3 others) for land in the Pinetop region. The purpose of the Pinetop land would be to provide consolidated camps for children, rather than the existing isolated special use camps. The project is estimated to complete in December of this year. If you’d like to learn more, visit http://www.fs.fed.us/nepa/nepa_project_exp.php?project=5004 or contact Randall Chavez at rchavez02@fs.fed.us.

Fossil Creek to Get River Management Plan

Building on the 2009 declaration of Fossil Creek as a “wild and scenic river” by Congress, and the Public Input received over the ensuing years, 2013 will bring a Comprehensive River Management Plan to Fossil Creek scheduled to be completed in July. To learn more visit: http://www.fs.fed.us/nepa/nepa_project_exp.php?project=27457  or contact Elizabeth Dykstra at edykstra@fs.fed.us

Firefighters Needed in Arizona and New Mexico to Ensure the Ecosystem of the National Forests

The Southwestern Region (region 3) of the National Forest Service has 10 positions to fill this fire-season in Arizona and New Mexico.  Qualified candidates may view the Consolidated Outreach Statement here: http://www.fs.usda.gov/Internet/FSE_DOCUMENTS/stelprdb5411684.pdf. Applications are due by March 22, 2013.

Livestock Grazing Management Evaluation Pending

The time for public comments is now – February 22 through April 8. Public comments and ideas pertaining to the grazing and management of the plant life in the Tonto National Forest / Salt River Region to Comments-Southwestern-Tonto@fs.fed.us. This autumn, the US Forest Service will be reevaluating the Salt River Allotments Vegetative Management. To download the report visit: http://a123.g.akamai.net/7/123/11558/abc123/forestservic.download.akamai.com/11558/www/nepa/79171_FSPLT2_376186.pdf

Countless things you could say instead …

Something got my dander up when I first wrote this … it was probably from Huffington Post and it was probably shared on Facebook … it probably had something to do with “things not to say to a (label) mom” … heaven knows HuffPost (for all its humor and all the decompression opportunities it’s offered me through humor over the umpteen years that I’ve occasionally read it) has its share of those kinds of posts … probably written by moms like me: who were on their way to (work, home, grocery store, child‘s therapy, their own therapy, the gym) and some well meaning stranger made a comment in passing that became the proverbial straw that broke the camel’s back and instead of crying or indulging in substance abuse or calling someone and having a mini-melt-down modern moms on the verge of breakdown do what passionate persons have done since the dawn of time … they create: words, art, food, more babies, etc … so anyway … it’s been sitting here for a while, but I’m going to “undraft” it and just hit publish …

For the past 12 years, I’ve been a mom … for the past 15 years I’ve been an accountant … and off and on for the past 20 years, I’ve been a (formal, full time) student.

No. I’m not 47 years old so these things didn’t occur separately.

When I first became a mom, I naively thought that the siss boom bah of the “debate” about SAHM or WOHM would go away. I really did. This “debate” is the parapet of competitive parenting and it’s pure and utter crap. Everyone does what’s best for her own family and her sanity – there’s nothing concrete or set in stone about it – we each have our own personalities, our own strengths, our own weaknesses. and to put it to bed FINALLY

everyone is raising their own children

Yep. There, I said it. NO MATTER WHAT LOVING ADULT CARES FOR YOUR CHILD YOU , yes you, THEIR PARENTS ARE RAISING THEM.

Did I say it loud enough?

Should I YELL it again?

Why am I yelling about it? Because HuffingtonPost.com just keeps droning on and on and on about the holier than thou SAHM and the holier than thou WOHM.

Guess what? There’s more to life and infusing the SAHM / WOHM role choice with morality, predestination, fate, GOD calling you to it, etc and then trying to impose your belief on others is pure poppycock. If you want to be home with your kids and that’s a lifestyle you can swing, then GO FOR IT. If you want to have a career AND children, by all means, have at it. If you want to homeschool your children or have them eat all natural home grown goat-fertilized vegan cuisine or not vaccinate them or if you want them to go to public, private, charter, or martian school or have them eat an omnivorous diet or vaccinate them, if you co-sleep or CIO, if you wear your baby or encourage tummy time and independent play, if you breast feed your child until he’s 4 or wean her when she’s 2 or  … that’s your prerogative.

Here’s the thing that you (I, all of us) need to remember:
Eventually our children are going to be adults. They’re going to (God willing) go to college and they’re going to make choices about their lives.

Do we want our children to grow up believing that their parents were so militantly guided by a religious view of gender roles that they lose their minds when they become adults because they don’t know that CHOICE is something that awaits them on the other side of our apron strings? Do we want them to grow up believing that EVERY adult around them is going to fall all over themselves to make sure that their needs are met?

 

Dear God, let’s HOPE not.

Otherwise you’re going to have to select everyone who interacts with them ever based on your gender role perceptions. So all the professional women that interact with your child will have to NOT have children of their own (since WOHM is baaaaad) and all the professional men that interact with your child will have to be Manly Men of Biblical proportions who follow whichever verses of Leviticus and Friends that you’ve decided are going to be THE RULES in your home/family/life (which honestly, is noneya …. as in none of your business … really what are you going to do? gruelingly interview EVERYONE with whom you interact? Do you have children (yes) are you female (yes) … HOLY HELL You’re polluting my children! Infidel! … and then your child can’t go to school with mine? can’t play basketball with mine? you can’t visit the facility where I work because OMG moms work there?

Conversely … I’m not going to interview all the women in my life and shun them if they choose to SAH with their kids …

 

Because here’s the thing (and this is what really separates the wheat from the chaff … oohh yeah there I did it … the heathen made a Biblical reference) … when my daughter was little, she did have a SAHP … AND she had a WOHM … because *gasp* charge the paddles … our family’s choice was to have the DADDY be the SAHP.  For some inane reason this – not my WOHM status, but that in my family the daddy was the SAHP – has driven several so-called “friends” (people who knew me in high school in the 518 area code) to shun me. Because I don’t believe it takes a vagina or a uterus or 2 boobs to be at home with the children. It also doesn’t take a penis and 2 testicles to be in the workforce or have a career.

yep, that’s the #1 reason (as agreed upon by the Momzillas and Mombies who were once classmates) that I’m a bad-ass who shouldn’t be living in the same society as them and their perfect-gender-role-example inculcated children.

(followed shortly by oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo VACCINATION! run. I’ve had my shots. that’s why I’m not controlled by my girly parts LOL)